“How you climb a mountain is more important than reaching the top.”
― Yvon Chouinard
OK, I lied.
Cupcakes didn’t really change my life, yet…
Cupcakes have helped me see that it isn’t so much about the end product, but how I choose to get there.
Slowing down and recognizing the possibilities and impact of each moment both nourishes our souls and the world around us. This process can feel both like an inconvenience and a pull on our limited reserves of time, energy, creativity, thoughtfulness, talent, inspiration or money… yet as we give what we think we do not have enough of, our life transforms; we find ourselves asking how we can feel so content and full of a happiness that persists even among the pains of life.
To build new habits, we need to strengthen our mental muscles. We need to begin by creating a mantra that asks something of ourselves. It isn’t about bettering ourselves or the moment. It is exactly the opposite. It is about learning how to step back into our magnificent selves and live the moment as “we” instead of me.
Here are 16 statements and questions to help get us started on creating a nourishing and slowing mantra:
1) I don’t think I need that.
2) What would the courageous thing to do here?
3) I think I will let that thought go.
4) Could I make a new and inspired choice that leaves the world a better place, or at least no worse?
5) Do I believe in this and how does this impact the world?
6) I am so happy that this action aligns with my values.
7) Who could I teach this to?
8) I choose this instead of that because it gives comfort.
9) Could that be re-used?
10) Is this action just, compassionate and loving?
11) I am enjoying this moment.
12) Just listen.
13) Deep breath and stand up for what is right.
14) This action promotes well-being for everyone and I am grateful.
15) My actions matter and make a difference.
16) Can I spend a little extra on that which promotes justice?
As we contemplate the power of the moment and invest in something greater than ourselves, there will be a sense of loss and confusion as the world whizzes by. We question what we are missing… but I have to hurry up. I don’t have time. I need more. I want more. It has to be better. I need more happiness. Grab. Don’t care. Don’t have time. Don’t have time. Too busy. Don’t even remember that I care. Need more. Better. Meeeeeeeee!
Whatever we are doing, including eating, buying, giving, or baking cupcakes, we have limitless possibilities to incite our slowness mantra and ask something of ourselves. What moments of justice, equality and love created that bike, that house, that car, that skirt, that makeup, that phone, that conversation, that text, that email, that bacon, that water, that blanket, that hamburger, that restaurant, that job, and that life-changing cupcake?
Don’t have time? Make time. Start with one act of slowness, and build from there. These are the moments that begin to build deep and lasting happiness. These moments fill us up with gratitude and abundance because we are being of service in each and every moment. We are shifting our focus from the quick feel-good ending to the long, beautiful and enduring now.
Peace to you and may all your cupcakes be as beautiful inside as out.